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St Hilda's Church, Ashford, Middlesex
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In baptism, you as parents are thanking God for his gift of life, deciding to start your child on the journey of faith and asking for the Church's support.
For your child, baptism marks the start of a journey of faith, which involves turning away from the darkness of self-centredness, turning towards Christ and becoming a member of the local and worldwide Christian family.
Baptism is a 'sacrament': a visible sign of God's love. In baptism, we are thanking God for his gift of life and publicly acknowledging his love. We are acknowledging that we all need to turn away from the darkness of evil and to make a new start with God.
Some people worry that they are imposing views on their children; but from the moment they are born, you make choices on their behalf. You don't wait until they are old enough to ask for milk before you feed them and in the same way it is right to give them spiritual nourishment and teach them about the love of God from an early age. When they are old enough they may choose to be confirmed and to make an adult affirmation of faith.
However, you may wish to talk over any doubts and concerns you have with the Vicar. He or she will be happy to help. There may be a discussion group that you can join to talk through some of these issues and to find out more about what being a Christian involves.
Jesus was baptized in the river Jordan. This was a turning point in his life (you can read the story in the Bible: at the beginning of Mark's Gospel in the New Testament). Jesus told his followers to baptize others as a sign that they had turned away from their old life, and begun a new life as Christ's disciples, members of his Body, having been assured of God's forgiveness.
Baptisms often took place in a river: new Christians were dipped under the water, marking their death to an old way of life, and lifted up again as a sign of new birth. Some churches still follow the practice of full immersion in water today. At St Hilda's we use the Font in the west end of the church, where children have been baptised since 1926.
Your child's baptism will normally take place during the main Sunday service (usually in the morning). This is so that your child can be seen to be joining the family of the Church and be welcomed into membership. In turn, the Church will promise to support and pray for you and your child. Another alterative is to come to a special 11am Service of Baptism.
There will be room for all your family and friends to join you on your child's special day. Some parts of the service will be for the whole congregation to join in, some will be for you and the godparents.
For the baptism itself, parents and godparents will be asked to make declarations on behalf of the child.
The sign of the cross:- The Vicar will make the sign of the cross on your child's forehead. This is like an invisible badge to show that Christians are united with Christ and must not be ashamed to stand up for their faith in him.
Water:- The Vicar will pour water on your child's head. Water is a sign of washing and cleansing. In baptism it is a sign of being washed free from sin and beginning a new life with God. Water is a sign of life, but also a symbol of death. When we are baptized our old life is buried in the waters (like drowning) and we are raised to new life with Christ.
Anointing:- After baptism in water, the child may be anointed with oil. This is a sign of the outpouring of God's Holy Spirit.
Candles:- Jesus is called the light of the world. A large candle will be lit in the church and you will be given a lighted candle at the end of the service as a reminder of the light which has come into your child's life. It is up to you, the child's godparents and the church community to help your child reject the world of darkness and follow a way of life that reflects goodness and light, and shares this light with others.
None, they are just different words for the same thing.
Baptisms usually take place in the church's main service, because they are a public declaration that your child has become part of the church family. It is important that the church congregation is there to support you and welcome your child. However, if personal circumstances make this difficult, talk to your parish priest.
Baptism can happen at any age. What matters is that those concerned believe it is right to ask for baptism. Teenagers and adults may also be baptized - speak to the Vicar about this. This is celebrated with confirmation by the Bishop. You can only be baptized once, but there are ways of renewing your commitment publicly as an adult - the Vicar will be able to advise.
Yes. The Church believes that God's love is available to all, regardless of their background.
You may also wish to find out more about the Christian faith and what joining the Church involves before you make a decision about baptism. Again, the Vicar can give you guidance.
The Baptism service is free.
Yes, It costs the church about £30 per baptism so if you wish to help to cover this cost it helps to keep the building open for your grandchildren when your child brings their children to baptism. Ideally this should be Gift Aided..... see Gift Aid on home page.
Godparents make the same promises on behalf of the child being baptized as parents. Godparents promise to pray and support the child and to help the parents to bring up the child in the Christian faith. It is an important and responsible role.
Normally you should have at least three: two of the same sex as the child and one of the opposite sex. Parents can also be godparents.
Godparents can be family members or friends. However, it is important that you choose people who will take an interest in your child's spiritual welfare and who will pray for you and your child. They should be baptized themselves.
The Church of St Hilda has a Baptism Policy which requires that at least one parent attends a "Pre Baptism Meeting". The Dates for these in 2004 are, 5th July, 2nd August, 6th September, 22nd November and 13th December 2004. We have also set the first date for 2005, which is 3rd January. All the meetings take place within the Parish Office, St Hilda's Hall on Stanwell Road, Ashford. The time being 7pm, and normally you will be finished by 7.45pm. It is at these meetings that dates can be set and NOT before. Please come along.
Baptism marks a new start for your child, as a member of the worldwide Christian community. In turn, the Church welcomes you and your child and promises to support you in bringing the child up in the faith. Most churches have services where children are welcome and special groups and activities for them.
There is a Mother and Toddler Group ever Wednesday and a Junior Church every Sunday.
We hope your baby's baptism will be a wonderful and memorable occasion and that it will mark the beginning of a long and happy association with this church.